If you’re at a point where you’re asking yourself, “How did I get here,” it may be time for you to figure out ways to change the direction of your life.
Deciding you have an unsatisfying life may not be easy, but it’s an important first step that will lead you toward the path that deep down, you’ve always wanted to take.
So, if you’re wanting to get your life in order, consider these steps:
1. Get specific — what exactly are you disappointed about? Jot down the details of what bugs you. Some of these may come easy, but spend time in self-evaluation. You can polish the surface scratches...you’ll need to put in the effort to fix the parts you feel are broken.
For example, if you’re disturbed about your home’s condition (unorganized or messy), write it down. If you feel down because you never got the training or education you wanted and you feel that’s held you back, put that on the list, too.
The purpose of this step is to identify the things that you find hard to accept about your life. This list provides you with a blueprint of what to work on to create the life you want.
2. Come up with concrete solutions for each of the items on your list — If you’re annoyed with the mess in your home, write down what you can do in the short term to feel better about it. Do the same with each item.
Some of these have probably been in your thoughts for a long time, but you’ve put them off because they seem too big or overwhelming to deal with. If that’s the case, brake them down into small, manageable tasks. Ask yourself, “What’s one simple, but meaningful action I can do to get the ball rolling?”
These solutions will guide you in your quest to live a more optimistic, satisfying life.
3. Begin working toward some of your solutions today — Once you make a good start, you’ll be motivated to continue.
Keeping with the same examples, get some boxes and garbage bags and work on getting one room, like your living room, in shape. Or start researching what options might be best for where you are in life right now if you want to further your education. Would evening classes work? Or pursuing an online degree? What options will help you move forward from where you are right now?
You can also make some calls to the local schools to see what coursework they offer in the field you’re interested in. Better yet, visit their websites and you can see for yourself the course offerings, length of training, and costs.
4. Refuse to let anything or anyone stop you from changing your life — Commit to yourself and your future. Acknowledge that you’re worth the effort to achieve your goals.
5. Remind yourself that you can do it — You have what it takes to move your life in the direction you want to go. Each day, be positive. Tell yourself you can do it.
6. Rally support — Who do you have in your life that will be supportive of your positive efforts to re-vamp your life? A parent or sibling, friend, neighbor, or even a co-worker might be inclined to motivate and encourage you to follow through.
7. Consider your life’s journey an adventure — Keep in mind that some journeys are bumpy. Some are scary. But when you start to move toward your goals, you’ll recognize you’re beginning to love the adventure.
The good news is that you have the power to repair and create your life however you like. If you identify specific areas that disappoint you, you can then generate solutions to correct them. When you start putting solutions into play and refuse to let anything stop you from fixing your life, you’ll move ahead with gusto.
Keep in mind you can do anything you set your mind to. Seek support from your friends and family. Most importantly, approach your plan to fix your life with a true sense of adventure.
When you carry out these steps, you’ll see that anything is possible. Yes, you can fix your life!